Vol. 2 Issue 2
Published once a month. You are on our list because you signed up for one of our special reports. To change your subscription, see link at end of email.
Sign me up for this newsletter!
In This Issue
Personal Note From Crista: 30 Days To A Healthier Life
Feature Article: Is Washing His Car Romantic?
Please add "firstname.lastname@example.org" to your whitelist or address book in your e-mail program, so that you have no trouble receiving future issues!
A Personal Note From Crista
I set a big goal for myself this month. I did thirty classes of Bikram Yoga in thirty days!
For those of you who don’t know, Bikram Yoga is intense. It’s an hour and a half of yoga in a very hot room (105 °F/ 40 °C). It was a month of sweating a lot! I had so much laundry to do.
It was difficult to go every day, but after a while I started to feel great. Because of the yoga I have been so productive and I have not wanted to eat any junk food. This proves my theory that if you add something good to your life; the negative things will just naturally fall away.
Even though this was a tough goal, it was the jump start I needed to get healthy and stay healthy. When I feel healthy, I feel happy.
As a goal-reaching junkie, I must say that I felt very happy on day 30. I love accomplishing what I set out to do. It feels great.
P.S. So what does this goal have to do with relationships, you ask? Well, when we as women are happy, we can be happy in our relationships. So I ask you, is there anything you can commit yourself to for the next thirty days that will jump start your health and have you feel good about yourself?
P.S.S. It can even be something little.
Is Washing His Car Romantic?
By Crista Beck
Do men and women communicate affection differently?
According to a study by Wills, Weiss and Patterson, women experience pleasure when their man showers them with affectionate behavior, like hugs and kisses, while men experience pleasure when they receive task-oriented assistance, like having his girlfriend wash his car.
In this study, the men were asked to increase their affectionate behaviors towards their partner. What’s fascinating is that along with being more affectionate, they also engaged in more task-oriented and helpful activities.
There was one man who wasn’t being more affectionate during the study and he got upset when he was approached about this and exclaimed, “But I washed her car!” In HIS world, this was a great way to show his affection towards her.
This study brings up an interesting question: Do men and women experience and communicate affection in different ways?
According to this study, each sex attaches different values to receiving a hug or having the car washed.
So what does this information mean to us as women? Well, for one thing when our boyfriend washes our car, we can know for certain that this is his way of giving us affection.
Next, this study also gives us a clue as to how to show affection to our boyfriend in a way that he will appreciate. What are some helpful activities you can do for him? These types of helpful tasks will communicate, “I love you.”
What kind of affection do you need to feel loved? Do daily hugs work for you? Do the words, "I love you" bring a big smile to your heart? Once you know what you need, then you can communicate this to your boyfriend.
The most powerful thing this study exposes is the importance of communicating the type of affection we would like to receive from our boyfriend. What you like and what he likes are different, so talking about this difference can be a good start. Tell him about this article and see what he thinks.
Next time you are looking for something romantic to do for your boyfriend, washing his car may be just the idea you need.
About Crista Beck
Crista Beck is the creator of Love Your Boyfriend, a website devoted to helping women understand and express love for their boyfriends.
To learn more about her website go to: www.love-your-boyfriend.com
You may absolutely share this newsletter with people you think may enjoy it. When doing so, please forward it in its entirety, including my contact and copyright information. Thanks and enjoy!
The Love Your Boyfriend Newsletter is written by Crista Beck: http://www.Love-Your-Boyfriend.com. If you have any questions or comments, please send them to: email@example.com.
”Love” photo in header by Abe and Liina Novy.
The study mentioned in the article "Is Washing His Car Romantic" is Wills, T. A., Weiss, R. L., & Patterson, G. R. (1974). A behavioral analysis of the determinants of marital satisfaction. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 42, 802-811
© 2009-2010 Love Your Boyfriend. All Rights Reserved.