Vol. 1 Issue 4

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Hello!

Personal Note From Crista: Happy "1/2" Birthday Love Your Boyfriend!: Growing By Leaps And Bounds

Crista Recommends: Nation's Girlfriends Unveil New Economic Plan: "Let's Move In Together"

Feature Article: How Men Listen vs. How Women Listen

Love Your Boyfriend Updates: New Web Pages Added!

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A Personal Note From Crista

Hi,

Exciting news...

Love-Your-Boyfriend.com is only 6 months old and is growing by leaps and bounds!

In January 2009 I started this website and we had only 40 visitors the first month. Now just 6 months later, in the month of June alone, we had over 21,643 visitors!

We have visitors from Canada, Brazil, U.S.A., Russia, India, Austrialia, U.K., Singapore, Uganda and 100 more countries. That's over 50,000 people from all over the world that have visited Love Your Boyfriend since our birth. Out of those 50,000 people, there are 5000 of you that come back again and again.

I'm so excited to see what will happen by the end of the year. Thanks to all of you for your support

Smiles,
Crista

P.S. I especially want to send a big thank you out to Louie for all of his assistance in getting Love Your Boyfriend off the ground. He held my hand through all the ups and downs. Without him Love Your Boyfriend would not be what it is today. Thanks Louie.

Crista Recommends

Here's a little video that I found. It's a funny twist on the issue of moving in together. It's from The Onion, an American "fake news" organization. It creates satirical news programs that are hilarious.

http://www.theonion.com/content/video/nations_girlfriends_unveil_new

Feature Article

Excerpts from Alison Armstrong's Celebrating Men Morsels at www.understandmen.com.

Both men and women are driven by instincts. According to Allison Armstrong, these inborn patterns of behavior affect the way each "species" of the human race listens. As Hunters and Gatherers there are different ways men and women listen to the world.

How Men Listen

Men have been given two default modes of listening that are consistent with their role as the principle Hunter.

If someone is not upset and they are speaking to a man, the man will listen for “What is the point?” This focuses the man's listening to receive the most important information. Ask any man if this is true and they will nod their head in agreement.

If someone is upset, a man will listen for, “What is the problem?” This way of listening has a man focus on the pertinent information that will help them to solve the problem, which men are compelled to do.

By listening, “what is the problem,” if the problem does not become clear, and its solution obvious, men will feel compelled to ask clarifying questions. The answers to these questions, they hope, will give them the information you need to solve the problem.

Both these ways of listening – what’s the point and what’s the problem - will work when dealing with men, and a few women, in a work environment. Principally because they’ll speak to the point and to the problem.

How Women Listen

Women were made to listen a different way from men.

If the person a women is listening to does not seem agitated, her first default listening for any information is, “what does this have to do with me?”

If a person does seem upset or agitated, a women will listen, “What do they need from me?”

There is nothing inherently wrong with either of these questions. In fact, they are useful for communicating with other Gatherers (women).

Women "gather" the information they need: “What does this have to do with me?” And women listen to men in a way that helps the women take care of him: “What does he need from me?”

But you might have already guessed that it can cause difficulties given a man's communication purposes, such as:

When a man is focused on producing a result which may have nothing to do with her, he may want to talk it out as part of his decision-making process. When a woman listens and listens and never finds it having anything to do with her, she is disappointed and thinks her listening was a waste of time.

When his lack of communication can be interpreted as him being upset, then his refusal to talk leaves a woman without the answers to “what does he need from me?” and she’ll feel insecure not knowing how to please him.

If he gets angry or frustrated, she’ll be listening, “what does he need from me?” and she may respond with things that further irritate him. This would probably hurt her feelings.

Understanding the differences in how men and women communicate, can create understanding within your relationship.

To learn more about men check out Alison Armstrong's The Amazing Development of Men™ CD.

Love Your Boyfriend Updates

Here are some of the new articles that were added to Love Your Boyfriend this month:

Ex Boyfriend Advice: How To Get Back Together With Your Boyfriend

The Boyfriend Nickname Search: Find A Great Nickname From The Jazz World

Cute Boyfriend Pet Names: Use Animals As Inspiration

How to Kiss Your Boyfriend: Become a Super-Kisser

Can I Get My Ex Boyfriend Back? What Should I Do?

How to Save a Relationship: Ask Two Important Questions

Nicknames to Call Your Boyfriend – Ideas to Find the Perfect Nickname

Skills To Get A Boyfriend: The Power Of Body Language

Sweet Names for Your Boyfriend: Get Romantic with a Romance Language

About Crista Beck

Crista Beck is the creator of Love Your Boyfriend, a website devoted to relationship advice, romantic ideas, and tips for understanding men.

To learn more about her website go to: www.love-your-boyfriend.com

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The Love Your Boyfriend Newsletter is written by Crista Beck: http://www.Love-Your-Boyfriend.com. If you have any questions or comments, please send them to: crista [at] love-your-boyfriend.com.

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