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Boyfriend Revenge

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He hurt you badly and you just want to get BOYFRIEND REVENGE! You just want to get EVEN. You want to protect yourself so he will never take advantage of you again.

Right now, you're majorly pissed off. I don't know what he did, but I know that you are really suffering right now. You feel angry and betrayed. You're heartbroken and filled with fury.

You just want your boyfriend to feel the pain that you feel. You want him to know what it feels like. You want to do something that will hurt him back, and make him feel even worse than the way he hurt you.

You want revenge because revenge feels good. There is nothing "sweeter" than getting revenge on your boyfriend right now. Getting even with your boyfriend is what you want. You want the satisfaction this boyfriend revenge will bring.

However, I'm sorry to say, you will only experience a short term satisfaction with revenge. The excitement and positive feelings of satisfaction are short lived. Revenge is just a quick fix because the problem will still exist after the revenge occurs. Unfortunately, revenge can only make things worse.

Women have a lot of negative feelings after committing boyfriend revenge. They feel guilt, regret and disappointment. They also experience embarrassment, remorse and discontentment.

The worst part is that trying to get boyfriend revenge will just wind up hurting you. When you try to get even by seeking revenge, you end up being so bitter that no one wants to be around you. Unresolved anger will fill your whole being and you will never feel content. You will be seen as someone who has a chip on their shoulder which will prevent future possibilities of relationships.

When you put more energy into getting revenge than getting on with your life you are putting up a big block to your personal growth.

Euripides's Medea is a example of revenge going bad. Medea is married to Jason. Jason leaves Medea for a younger and more attractive woman. Medea feels like someone has taken something that is hers. Her revenge is to make Jason the most miserable person on earth. She poisons clothing and sends it to Jason's new bride. Medea even poisons the clothes of her own children just to make Jason suffer. Jason's new bride and his children all die a painful death.

Medea has succeeded. Her revengeful act has made Jason even more miserable than Medea feels. Instead of raising herself up and making herself happy, she pulls Jason down so that she is happier than him in comparison. Her sadistic behavior has not only ruined Jason's life but her own.

Revenge on the surface looks like a very powerful action, but in reality revenge is just an action of someone in victim mode. Revenge will not give you the relief you are seeking because revenge is a form of avoidance.

The reasons you are seeking revenge are unknown to you. Often people who are seeking revenge have unresolved anger. They have an inability to deal with the reality of life. They feel ignored or discounted by others.

Revenge is a symptom. It is a symptom of a lifetime of neglect, feeling ignored, misunderstood, unappreciated, unrecognized or invisible. Seeking revenge will not make you feel better, in fact, this need to be the “winner” at all costs will chip away at your own happiness even more.

Happiness and anger cannot live together. So you have a choice. You can keep choosing anger and be miserable for the rest of your life, or you can choose happiness.

Choosing happiness isn't easy. It means you have to take the time to figure out why you choose anger and revenge over happiness. You'll have to figure out how to put past hurts and pains behind you. You are going to have to reset your goals and priorities and start concentrating on your personal growth.

If you choose happiness, you need to develop new ways to handle hurt and pain. You will need to release your anger in constructive ways and work on forgiveness.

Creating happiness is not easy, but it's worth it. You don't want to be an angry woman for the rest of your life do you?

Right now, give up seeking revenge on your boyfriend. Just let it go. Revenge is just a "mode" that you can choose to be in or not. Do you really want to stay in "revenge mode?"

Just take some time to take care of yourself. Go out with some girlfriends and have a good time. Go for a long jog. Go for a hike in the woods. Let off some steam. Do something to nurture yourself. Take a bubble bath. Buy a new outfit. Get a massage. Do something nice for yourself. Take your focus off him. Put your focus on yourself. Love yourself.

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